One of the things that you cannot simply avoid in life are
insults. I mean it starts for a moment
when you start understanding the language and gets absolutely worse when you
make friends. For some reasons we humans are created and insatiate that if we
are friends, we must insult each other. We have to make fun of each other. It’s
hard to imagine life without insult. Even if you try to be the most righteous human
being in the world and never hurts anyone, there will be that one friend who
will insult you or it might be a random person you will meet somewhere in the
streets.
As a little kid I actually suffer a lot. Because whenever I
would be insulted, I really don’t know how to react. Of course I will feel bad
and get angry and simply would want to hurt him as well but it wasn’t always
the best strategy. In fact it was the worst strategy because if you fight
everyone who will insults you, YOU WILL NOT HAVE A LIFE.
The whole point of an insult is to hurt you, to make you
feel bad and to make you feel inferior. If someone walks in and makes fun of
your height or size, for example “You are taller than a giraffe” or “You are
fat like a pig”. If you even get slightly angry and insult him back it means
that the insult has workout. You go defended the person who insulted you will
feel good. Actually the reason why people insult in the first place is to feel
good about themselves. They are insecure and they’re not confident about
themselves. So they try to put someone else down, to make them feel superior.
You probably came across people who constantly insult everyone around them.
A lot of people get angry when they insulted but they don’t reveal
that. And keeps it within themselves and then worry about it for days to come
if not weeks. “Why did he say that to me? It’s unfair, I didn’t deserve that”.
You will keep repeating that inside your head over and over and will fill
yourself with anger and hatred. And that’s the worst way to respond. You’ll
simply end up hurting yourself. I guess the question you’re having in your mind
right now, “If reacting to insult is wrong and staying quite is wrong then what
should I do?” Well you have to show to the other person, you absolutely don’t care
about what he says by ACCEPTING IT and EXAGGERATING IT. So if someone would
insult you by telling you “You’re taller than a giraffe”. You can respond with
something like “Yes of course, be careful because I might step on you without
noticing that”. You are accepting the fact that you’re very tall and
exaggerating it to the point like you might step on him like some kind of a
giant. It turn the insult around and that puts you automatically above him. He
attempt to put you down and didn’t work out because now he denies the insult by
agreeing with you.
As Epictetus once said “it’s not what happens to you, but
how you react to it is what matters!” You can control people. You will always
come across people who will insult you. But what you can do is to control how
you react to that. THE KEY IS NEVER TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.
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